Not every friendship ending is a sign of growth. Sometimes it's avoidance. Sometimes it's ego. And sometimes it's the story we tell ourselves to avoid deeper truths. This essay unpacks why written from an autistic lens.
Thank you for referencing this article in the comment section of your most recent one. "They didn’t ask for a front-row seat to your healing journey just to be discarded at the next milestone." Wow. You write so poetically and with so much truth! I needed to read that line. Thank you for the wisdom you've written here. Now I know I need to have a conversation with my friend to tell her how I've changed and give her space to hear it and understand me. I'll be patient. She's held me through the hard times (literally) and now I can give her the space to learn this new part of me.
You are the fifth person to reference poetry. I heard my whole life i write without emotion. So this is affirming….alot. Cos i think i do emotions well. I just dont when I am factual. And feelings are not fact even when they hurt. And yes you must talk to her and tell her you want to introduce her to your new self. At least give her that opportunity and see if she wants it or declines. 🫶🏾✨
Well I definitely notice your writing as very poetic! Maybe people who couldn't see that weren't open to the poetry of their own lives... I'm going to talk to her when I get home from time abroad and introduce myself to her again. Even if I'm scared that it will end the friendship. We will see what happens... thank you 😊
I agree i always say people who dont see or know me cant tell me who I am they tell me who they are and the limits they live by. Thats why I wasnt offended they see the Black on white I write. others see poetry on motion as i translate from indigenous languages to English for you all.
As I was reading your article I was also traveling down memory lane with a few of my long term friendships. I met 2 of my friends when I was about 14 (I'm 59 now). One of the friendships I stopped investing in as I felt it was not reciprocated. We had grown different directions. My other friend was different. We stayed in touch, despite the physical distance and life trajectories. When we both found ourselves in the same region again, we were able to reconnect. It has become a very deep and intimate relationship.
Your vulnerability brought me sadness and joy. Friendship is the most intimate relationship I have with another person and your words resonated deeply.
It’s love ❤️ I appreciate the support a much and actually glad I wrote this and said what I learnt because love doesn’t die and reconciliation happens I may write on mine soon. Thank you for supporting my writing here honestly 🙏🏾
So you’re saying I should send it to my old friend and ask her to cash app me Swedish style for my two Beyoncé VIP tickets? Cos I have bills to pay you know and I wanna know if she is walking my way so I can get it back 🤣🤣
Am kidding I don’t know how to take compliments on my writing sometimes when it’s vulnerable. Thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you for referencing this article in the comment section of your most recent one. "They didn’t ask for a front-row seat to your healing journey just to be discarded at the next milestone." Wow. You write so poetically and with so much truth! I needed to read that line. Thank you for the wisdom you've written here. Now I know I need to have a conversation with my friend to tell her how I've changed and give her space to hear it and understand me. I'll be patient. She's held me through the hard times (literally) and now I can give her the space to learn this new part of me.
You are the fifth person to reference poetry. I heard my whole life i write without emotion. So this is affirming….alot. Cos i think i do emotions well. I just dont when I am factual. And feelings are not fact even when they hurt. And yes you must talk to her and tell her you want to introduce her to your new self. At least give her that opportunity and see if she wants it or declines. 🫶🏾✨
Well I definitely notice your writing as very poetic! Maybe people who couldn't see that weren't open to the poetry of their own lives... I'm going to talk to her when I get home from time abroad and introduce myself to her again. Even if I'm scared that it will end the friendship. We will see what happens... thank you 😊
I agree i always say people who dont see or know me cant tell me who I am they tell me who they are and the limits they live by. Thats why I wasnt offended they see the Black on white I write. others see poetry on motion as i translate from indigenous languages to English for you all.
thank you for this perspective 🫶🏽
As I was reading your article I was also traveling down memory lane with a few of my long term friendships. I met 2 of my friends when I was about 14 (I'm 59 now). One of the friendships I stopped investing in as I felt it was not reciprocated. We had grown different directions. My other friend was different. We stayed in touch, despite the physical distance and life trajectories. When we both found ourselves in the same region again, we were able to reconnect. It has become a very deep and intimate relationship.
Your vulnerability brought me sadness and joy. Friendship is the most intimate relationship I have with another person and your words resonated deeply.
Thank you.
Needed this
Gorgeous writing with such truth and kindness. ❤️🌿
Thank you Alice I wrote it recovering from a migraine after threading thoughts online and realised I needed to longform it 🙏🏾
Lovette, this is a beautiful, vulnerable article. Thank you for sharing, and for helping me see that gratitude for friendship allows us to heal, too.
Really, though, your writing has expanded my perspective and lens. So thank you for being you.
this was beautiful to read and i could feel how your words broadened my horizon and enriched my perspective. thank you!
It’s love ❤️ I appreciate the support a much and actually glad I wrote this and said what I learnt because love doesn’t die and reconciliation happens I may write on mine soon. Thank you for supporting my writing here honestly 🙏🏾
So you’re saying I should send it to my old friend and ask her to cash app me Swedish style for my two Beyoncé VIP tickets? Cos I have bills to pay you know and I wanna know if she is walking my way so I can get it back 🤣🤣
Am kidding I don’t know how to take compliments on my writing sometimes when it’s vulnerable. Thank you 🙏🏾
*runs and hides
Haha, asking for the money back would be an excellent way to gauge if you’re realigned 😉
I’ll send her the link from afar as a postcard of love. ✨🙏🏾
Nice! 😂 do it, lol