That crush you can’t stop thinking about? It might not be love. Sometimes what we call attraction is actually our body recognizing safety—for the first time in a long time.
Omg you are in my head! I remember when I couldn't label a feeling like this, I thought the constant returning to their voice, the stillness was I sabotaged what could have been a life long friendship. I knew it wasn't romantic but I didn't know what it was.
“There’s no pining, no dramatic obsession, no desperate urge to act. Just a steady hum in my chest.”
This is a type of connection I would love to have more of in my life. Thank you for bringing recognition to a feeling that is often overlooked or undervalued, or wouldn’t count as “real” to many people.
I recently came across the concept for the first time of a relationship being “good for the nervous system”, and I’m really glad I now have this wording and framing. I hope to let those words serve as a guide for me as I move through life and relate to people, and help me recognize and value the type of feeling you describe.
wow. this hit HARD.
Omg you are in my head! I remember when I couldn't label a feeling like this, I thought the constant returning to their voice, the stillness was I sabotaged what could have been a life long friendship. I knew it wasn't romantic but I didn't know what it was.
“There’s no pining, no dramatic obsession, no desperate urge to act. Just a steady hum in my chest.”
This is a type of connection I would love to have more of in my life. Thank you for bringing recognition to a feeling that is often overlooked or undervalued, or wouldn’t count as “real” to many people.
I recently came across the concept for the first time of a relationship being “good for the nervous system”, and I’m really glad I now have this wording and framing. I hope to let those words serve as a guide for me as I move through life and relate to people, and help me recognize and value the type of feeling you describe.
This is the piece I have been looking for, thank you so much for writing your incredible work.
Yes and on both sides and I didn’t know what to make of it— thanks for writing this. This makes sense.