Short, sensory-safe strategies that respect executive function, emotional nuance, and lived experience. For autistic and neurodivergent women who are tired of generic advice.
I love the idea of two selves looking out for each other.
I have three close friends-each of whom I’ve known a very long time and who I love a great deal, but my very best friend is me. When I feel an overwhelming bout of self-doubt ( this is the thing that cripples me most often) it’s usually me that picks myself back up-nothing anyone else says or does really does the trick.
stumbled across this and it left me tearing up. “it’s not aspirational, it’s survival” hit me really hard as someone who still struggles to navigate what my version of success/functionality/doing enough looks like when i’m auDHD and chronically ill. thank you for this—executive dysfunction can make doing some tasks feel impossible, but thinking about how doing a task will affect me and other versions of myself might actually be the kind of motivation I’ve been needing.
Wow, light bulb moment. I’ve always prepped for my future self. On a daily basis even. I’ve even criticized myself for doing it as being too anxious, over achieving (because it looks that way to others). But this helps me to frame it in a new way. And I think you are absolutely right. It’s self care. Thank you 💕
That’s exactly it sometimes what gets labeled or pathologised as anxiety is often just selfcare in disguise. Nuance✨ Especially for those of us who’ve had to create safety in advance because we knew no one else would. You’re not overdoing it. You trust your selves to alert you if you are. You’re tending to yourself with foresight. I’m glad it clicked for you. That’s the whole point of my Lovette reframes. ✨🫶🏾
I love the idea of two selves looking out for each other.
I have three close friends-each of whom I’ve known a very long time and who I love a great deal, but my very best friend is me. When I feel an overwhelming bout of self-doubt ( this is the thing that cripples me most often) it’s usually me that picks myself back up-nothing anyone else says or does really does the trick.
stumbled across this and it left me tearing up. “it’s not aspirational, it’s survival” hit me really hard as someone who still struggles to navigate what my version of success/functionality/doing enough looks like when i’m auDHD and chronically ill. thank you for this—executive dysfunction can make doing some tasks feel impossible, but thinking about how doing a task will affect me and other versions of myself might actually be the kind of motivation I’ve been needing.
This is just so smart and helpful! Thanks Lovette.
You are most welcome 🙏🏾✨
I prepare for future self all the time. I have audhd and whew, this resonates. Have an awesome week.
Hope you have an awesome week too 🫶🏾✨
Thank you for writing this
You are welcome 🙏🏾✨
Wow, light bulb moment. I’ve always prepped for my future self. On a daily basis even. I’ve even criticized myself for doing it as being too anxious, over achieving (because it looks that way to others). But this helps me to frame it in a new way. And I think you are absolutely right. It’s self care. Thank you 💕
That’s exactly it sometimes what gets labeled or pathologised as anxiety is often just selfcare in disguise. Nuance✨ Especially for those of us who’ve had to create safety in advance because we knew no one else would. You’re not overdoing it. You trust your selves to alert you if you are. You’re tending to yourself with foresight. I’m glad it clicked for you. That’s the whole point of my Lovette reframes. ✨🫶🏾
THANK U SO MUCH MAAM I HVE ADHD AND AUTISM THIS WILL HELP SOOO MUCH
My pleasure! First time reading my own substacks in my own voice so this was fun! ✨