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Cali Mack's avatar

This piece? Whew. The lessons around repairing relationships, like the actual steps, the real work are so needed right now.

I remember being that kid who didn’t feel safe enough to say, “this hurt me.” Because either it got dismissed… or somehow, I became the problem. That lesson stuck too deep. Eventually, I stopped speaking up. I told myself, “I’m not dead, so whatever.” And that silence? It just turned into resentment. Then hate.

I’m lucky. I’ve got people around me who never gave up on me. People who were willing to grow with me. That’s the only reason I can even talk about this now.

Thank you, Jallow, for naming what so many of us were never taught to say.

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C. Jacobs's avatar

"Repair is not reconnection. Reconnection is the outcome. Repair is the work." Understanding this point is so vital, because too many people confuse one for the other and it makes reconciliation that much harder. Excellent piece.

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