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Why Neurodivergent People Need Honest Friends
What neurodivergent friendships really ask of us: conflict, truth-telling, and seeing the blind spots we can’t see alone. By Lovette Jallow
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Why We Don’t Know How to Repair Relationships Anymore
Why don’t we know how to repair relationships anymore? On conflict, avoidance, and the lost skill of community repair. By Lovette Jallow.
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Do Hurt People Really Hurt People?
Lovette Jallow dismantles the overused phrase “hurt people hurt people,” weaving personal stories, survivor insight, and structural critique into one…
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When Rejection Sensitivity Becomes Emotional Coercion
Rejection sensitivity is real. But when it’s weaponized to reframe boundaries as betrayal, it stops being a wound and becomes a form of emotional…
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When Your Friend Becomes the Parent You Barely Survived
“Some of you aren’t parenting. You’re reenacting your own chaos with smaller, more vulnerable witnesses.”This is for the childfree people who recognize…
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What If “Narcissistic Abuse” Is Just… Abuse?
What if narcissistic abuse isn’t a diagnosis but a misreading of patterns? My latest essay challenges stigma, exposes pop-psych shortcuts, and reclaims…
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Neurodivergent Grief in West Africa: How Our Ancestors Protected What the West Pathologized
Neurodivergent grief doesn’t always arrive on schedule. In West Africa, it was never pathologized delayed mourning was held as communal wisdom. Lovette…
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When They Won’t Read But Keep Asking You for Answers
“It’s not overexplaining if they never read. It’s unpaid labor in disguise. This is what autistic grief sounds like when the people closest to you ask…
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Don’t Be a Deadbeat to Your Inner Child
How Unhealed Trauma Becomes Harmful Behavior Especially Online. You say you’re healing. But your inner child is still dysregulating on people. Still…
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Why Autistic Daughters Often Go No-Contact with Their Mothers
Too many autistic daughters are cast as difficult when they were simply trying to survive unsafe mothers. Lovette Jallow explored parentification…
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Aspie Supremacy, Eugenics, and the Lies of High-Functioning Autism
Aspie supremacy is not liberation, it is a survival strategy shaped by eugenics, whiteness, and capitalist ideals. In this essay, Lovette Jallow traces…
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The Myth of Hyperlexia as Instant Genius: Why Fast Reading Isn't Fast Understanding
Hyperlexia is often misread as a sign of instant comprehension—but for many, it masks hidden struggles with communication, connection, and workplace…
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