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Why We Don’t Know How to Repair Relationships Anymore
Why don’t we know how to repair relationships anymore? On conflict, avoidance, and the lost skill of community repair. By Lovette Jallow.
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Neurodivergence in Ancient Africa: What History Forgot but Our Ancestors Knew
How West African societies embraced autism, ADHD, and neurodivergence as spiritual gifts and essential community roles—long before diagnosis existed…
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When Men Fail in a World Optimized for Them, They Don’t Blame Patriarchy—They Blame Women
The Incel Mindset, Male Entitlement, and the Weaponization of Resentment. Men aren’t failing because of women—they’re failing because of patriarchy. But…
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Neurodivergence in Ancient Africa: What History Forgot but Our Ancestors Knew
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Why Autistic Daughters Often Go No-Contact with Their Mothers
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Matriarchy Is Not a Mirror of Patriarchy
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Why Estranged Parents Face Isolation And What We Get Wrong About Family Obligations
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When Rejection Sensitivity Becomes Emotional Coercion
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Are You Practicing Feminism or Just Gynarchy? | Matriarchy vs Patriarchy Explained
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Sharp essays on structural violence, race, and neurodivergence—by Lovette Jallow, an internationally recognized author and strategist shifting how Sweden and beyond confront injustice.
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When Men Fail in a World Optimized for Them, They Don’t Blame Patriarchy—They Blame Women
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Why We Don’t Know How to Repair Relationships Anymore
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Neurodivergence in Ancient Africa: What History Forgot but Our Ancestors Knew
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Why Autistic Daughters Often Go No-Contact with Their Mothers
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Matriarchy Is Not a Mirror of Patriarchy
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Matriarchy Is Not a Mirror of Patriarchy
What Western Feminism Got Wrong About Matriarchy. Ancestral matriarchies are not reversed patriarchy. Lovette Jallow explains what the West…
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Community Is Not Transactional for Black Queer Disabled Women
Community doesn’t mean access. People don’t just extract labor, they extract presence. Especially from those who’ve never been taught to say no.This…
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When White People Use Autism to Justify Their Racism
Autism and Neurodivergence isn’t your shield from accountability. My latest essay exposes how whiteness uses neurodivergence as an excuse for racism…
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LBee Health and Lauren Howard Exposed: Fraudulent ADHD and Autism Assessments
Victim testimonies and investigation reveal how LBee Health and Lauren Howard exploited neurodivergent communities with unregulated ADHD and autism…
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Why Neurodivergent People Need Honest Friends
What neurodivergent friendships really ask of us: conflict, truth-telling, and seeing the blind spots we can’t see alone. By Lovette Jallow
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When She Stayed Still Enough to Let Me In
A weekly neurodivergent sapphic fiction series about desire, consent, and the power of stillness by Lovette Jallow
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Patriarchy

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What You Call Matriarchy Is Gynarchy - And It’s Still Patriarchy
“Matriarchy isn’t patriarchy in pink. It doesn’t invert power—it refuses it.” In this essay, Lovette Jallow redefines true matriarchal leadership.
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Are You Practicing Feminism or Just Gynarchy? | Matriarchy vs Patriarchy Explained
Listen now | Are you practicing feminism—or just patriarchy in reverse?Lovette Jallow breaks down why gynarchy mimics domination, while matriarchy…
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Matriarchy Is Not a Mirror of Patriarchy
What Western Feminism Got Wrong About Matriarchy. Ancestral matriarchies are not reversed patriarchy. Lovette Jallow explains what the West…
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When Men Protect Boys Instead of Naming Harm, They Don’t Disrupt Violence—They Preserve It
How Netflix’s Adolescence Exposes the Incel Pipeline, and Why Fragile Men Can’t Lead Anyone Out of It.Adolescence shows us how male entitlement begins…
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When Men Fail in a World Optimized for Them, They Don’t Blame Patriarchy—They Blame Women
The Incel Mindset, Male Entitlement, and the Weaponization of Resentment. Men aren’t failing because of women—they’re failing because of patriarchy. But…
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Sweden

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Stockholm Syndrome: How Systems Blamed Survivors to Protect Power
The Stockholm Syndrome story isn’t about loving your captor. It’s about how systems betrayed survivors and then blamed them to protect power.
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Teaching the Children We Were
Anti-Racism in Swedish Schools Through the Eyes of a Former Student, Educator, and Advocate. Anti-racism in Sweden can’t begin until we stop masking…
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Why Sweden’s Reputation as an Inclusive Country is Misleading
Sweden promotes itself as progressive and inclusive, but why do so many foreigners struggle to belong? The reality of workplace bias, social exclusion…
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Black Women in Sweden: Erasure, Media Bias & the Fight for Representation
Who gets to represent Blackness in Sweden? With 600,000 Black Swedes, why are dark-skinned Black women erased from narratives? This post explores…
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When Men Fail in a World Optimized for Them, They Don’t Blame Patriarchy—They Blame Women
The Incel Mindset, Male Entitlement, and the Weaponization of Resentment. Men aren’t failing because of women—they’re failing because of patriarchy. But…
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ADHD

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Why Neurodivergent People Need Honest Friends
What neurodivergent friendships really ask of us: conflict, truth-telling, and seeing the blind spots we can’t see alone. By Lovette Jallow
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Why We Don’t Know How to Repair Relationships Anymore
Why don’t we know how to repair relationships anymore? On conflict, avoidance, and the lost skill of community repair. By Lovette Jallow.
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Do Hurt People Really Hurt People?
Lovette Jallow dismantles the overused phrase “hurt people hurt people,” weaving personal stories, survivor insight, and structural critique into one…
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When Rejection Sensitivity Becomes Emotional Coercion
Rejection sensitivity is real. But when it’s weaponized to reframe boundaries as betrayal, it stops being a wound and becomes a form of emotional…
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When Your Friend Becomes the Parent You Barely Survived
“Some of you aren’t parenting. You’re reenacting your own chaos with smaller, more vulnerable witnesses.”This is for the childfree people who recognize…
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